Losing a child at birth (or at any time) is one of the most painful and devastating experiences that someone can go through. Sadly, so many men, once excited at the prospect of being a dad (many for the first time), never get to experience a “normal” childbirth. Some also never get to experience a “normal” fatherhood at all.
These men are part of a group that swells by over 3,000 new members each year through stillbirth, neonatal or infant loss. A grieving father feels the loss of a child just as keenly as the mother. Although men don’t express themselves like women do, it does not mean that we grieve any less.
Pillars of Strength was formed in 2008 by Gary Sillett when his son Isaac died and he found that there was nothing out there to help dads going through this terrible time.
Since launch, Pillars of Strength has engaged and assisted hundreds, if not thousands, of men in their grief journey through the provision of timeout opportunities and events where dads connected with their mates, family and dads, and created new communities and networks.
Pillars has run more than 160 events for bereaved dads across five states and territories
We feel extremely lucky to have George in our lives for only a short period of time and he tried his best to stay with us. My only wish is that he could have stayed a bit longer. Jarrod Maher
I have found that each birthday has been a bit more bearable than the last, although I still kind of want to just survive the day in one piece. Matt Sylvester
Though I may not speak of that day or our daughter as much as my wife I still have my own way to honour my daughter. She will always be missed and my love for her will always be strong. Ryan Calkin
PO Box 1092, Strawberry Hills NSW 2012
ABN: 19 152 298 934
Pillars of Strength is a registered charity with full Deductible Gift Recipient (DGR) status and all donations over $2 are tax deductible
Many of our donors and sponsors understand there is a woeful lack of support for grieving fathers. You can help by making a donation.
All donations over $2 are tax-deductible
Pillars of Strength is an organisation dedicated to helping families through the provision of support to men.
Our vision is:
To be a leading national men’s health organisation, that supports men to re-engage with the community, by providing opportunities to reduce the stress, and grief of men during loss and family trauma.
We do this through our mission:
Building Communities where Men help Men.
Our programmes are built to be sustainable. As we expand, we are looking to partner with organisations that can help us grow and continue to help dads across Australia in ways that work for men.
We are supported by researchers who are currently undertaking ground-breaking work into men’s grief and how to best support them. Although none of our programmes provide clinical therapy (we are building communities for peer support), we rely on world-leading academic research to provide the evidence for our service development.
This ‘club’ of bereaved dads is growing by nearly 3,000 members every year in Australia. Despite advances in medical research and current government funding into stillbirth and other causes of infant death, this club will continue to grow as our population increases and our multicultural society includes more families with large numbers of children. However good the research outcomes, dads will need Pillars of Strength for a long time yet.
We need support for our Time Out programme
We are looking for sponsorship partners who can help fund
Your involvement would demonstrate your support for this unique and much-needed cause. Sponsorship could provide the following opportunities:
We can offer tiered sponsorship arrangements depending on the level of support ranging from: